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Tip 2- She Should
Feel Pleasure Not
Men and women are extremely
different when it comes to sexual fulfillment,
therefore you need to literally find out from
your wife what pleases her.
Some wives, are willing
to go through an entire session while feeling
tremendous pain or discomfort. Because of this
they may not initiate sex. You find that you are
the one who has to constantly be "begging for
sex with your wife". No one should have to
"endure" such as a special gift from God.
Sexual intercourse with your
wife needs to be pleasurable for both for both
of you. So, tonight, talk to your wife, find out
what pleases her, what turns her on and what
turns her off.
Tip 3 - Make
Love, Don't Just Having Sex
sometimes fail to understand the difference
between making love and just having sex. Sex is
not just about having an orgasm. Any one can
have an orgasm, but not everyone can make love.
Love making involves much thought and pleasure.
With that said, always remember that
women want to experience the love along
with the sex. They go hand in hand. So,
ensure that you include much foreplay
Tip 4 - Include Lots of
One of the complaints that
many wives have is that their husbands are
unwilling to spend the time to help them get in
the mood. For a wife, foreplay is just as
important as sexual penetration because foreplay
allows their vagina to become lubricated,
causing sex to be more enjoyable.
Husbands, always keep in the
back of your mind that men are easily turned on
by sight while women are easily turned on by
touch, so, do more touching, caressing, kissing,
ultimately, lots more foreplay. One of the
things you can do is to ask your wife if she is
getting enough foreplay. If she says no, ask her
what additional things you can do, where does
she want you to touch, how fast or slow, when to
start or stop etc.
Tip 5 - Kind Words
Get Her Engine Started
Husbands, the point below is
the most important thing for you to
remember in this article. It is NOT the
positions or even where you touch. It is the
"For women, love making actually begins
outside of the bedroom. It starts the
minute you wake up, the first words that
are exchanged and continues throughout
the day. For women COMMUNICATION is the
beginning of love making".
You can follow he example of
the author in Song of Songs 7:1-3 who said to
his wife, "Your graceful legs are like jewels,
the work of a craftsman's hands, your navel is a
rounded goblet that never lacks blended wine.
Your waist is like mound of wheat enriched by
lilies. Your breasts are like two fawns, twins
of a gazelle." He knew how to give a complement,
what about you?
When was the last time you
complemented your wife. Told her she looked
beautiful, sexy or breath taking. Before today
ends complement her at least three times and see
the difference it makes.
Ensure that while she is at
work you give her a call just to say, "I love
you" or to remind her how special she is to you.
If you are very negative, uncommunicative and
uncooperative, then that is exactly what you
will receive when you hit the bed room.
Women are not like switches where they
are turned off outside the bed room then turned
on when it is time to make love.
Tip 6 - Romance, Romance, Romance
We cannot stress Romance enough. In tip
one we touched on it a bit. Remember,
romance is not just taking your spouse
some flowers today and then next week
you treat her as thought she does not
exist. Romance is one of the biggest
turn ons for women.
In marriage, romance
is a continual act that is shown in the
simple things you do and the words you
say. It is about being consistent;
remembering special occasions such as
Valentines Day and her birthday.
It is surprising her with a
candle light dinner or a bubble bath where just
the two of you get to bask in each others
company and allow the night to take its course.
If you need tips and trick on how to be more
romantic find out about
The Wife Toolkit
Tip 7 - Could Other Problems
be Affecting your Sex Life
Unresolved Conflicts -
Most wives if not
all, will not be able to enjoy sex if they
feel there is a disagreement that has not
been resolved. Husbands usually move on
quickly but wives do not. Therefore, ensure
that if there is any issue that is left
unresolved you resolve them before
initiating sex. Be willing to apologize if
that is needed.
Infidelity / Sexual Addiction -
If one of you
cheated it will be very difficult to regain
any form of closeness and your sex life will
definitely suffer. Also, if you are addicted
to pornography this can be a big turn off
for many wives who will feel insecure and
eventually become distant. To learn how to
overcome infidelity and sexual addiction,
forgive and love each other again you may
want to get a copy of the Marriage
Verbal /Emotional Abuse -
If you speak harshly
to your wife, constantly criticize her or
abuse her in any other way, it will be
difficult for her to be turned on by you.
Everything else that you do will be done in
Not Helping Out At Home -
Can your wife ask you
to do something and trust that it will be
done, or does she have to do everything . Do
you help out with the chores at home or does
she have to work a 9-5 job just as you but
at the same time come home to cook the
dinner, take care of the kids , clean the
house? If she is exhausted, sex will be the
furthest thing on her mind.
Learn more about marriage
problems and how they an affect every aspect
of your marriage including your sex life.
Tip 8 - Change Your
Positions / Techniques Often
Having a Christian marriage doesn't mean
your sex life has to be dull, boring and
Remember, in the same way that eating at the
same restaurant can become mundane after a
while, sticking to one position can become
boring and un-enjoyable for you and your wife if
you do not add creativity and adventure.
Many couples get stuck at the missionary
position, however, there are so many
positions for you to choose from, these
1. X Position
- This method is ideal for prolonged
- Half facing sexual intercourses are
usually grouped here. You begin with
both of you lie facing each other, with
one of her legs between yours and one of
your legs between hers.
- These are all face-to-face positions
where one spouse has both thighs between
the thighs of the other.
Matrimonial - most couples
begin their intercourse in this
position, where the husband is on top
astride or between the wife.
Entry to Vagina -
croupade, negresse - This position can
be done while lying, kneeling, sitting
or standing. This position allows the
male to thrust deep within the vagina
7. Inverted 69
8. Upper Hands
9. Florentine -
requires the wife to hold the husband's
penile skin while having intercourse.
10. Cuissade -
This is when the wife lies on her side,
and the leg that is facing up is pulled
toward her. Her husband then enters her
while kneeling between her legs, using
his hands to support his weight.
that you know some of the things that can turn
on your wife, take the time to do them and
ensure that they are done with sincerity.
Trust us, wives know when their husbands are going
through the motion or if they are really being
Being a Christian does not mean your
sex life has to be dull and freezing.
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